Miscarriage------what hospital does with the baby.?

i had a missed miscarriage at my 12 week scan but the baby had died at 7 weeks i went in hospital and took the tablets. when i was getting discharged they gave me a leaflet about funeral arrangements. they actually cremate the remnants. for the last 8 weeks i have had the patient welfare officers ringing and writing asking if i want to go, send flowers make a special box with my daughter to bury with baby and even carry the coffin. it all seems a little drastic to me and is proving very stressful. im made to feel guilty when i say i dont want to go but if i do go its going to drag on for another 3 weeks until the cremation. i need some closure for myself and my family. i was wondering if anyone else has had this experience. it said in the leaflet that it would be carried out within 4 weeks and its harder to deal with than actually losing the baby